At one point of the ceremony, the time will come. Some couples relish the idea, others dread it (especially those with two left feet) and will do their best to avoid it (or get it over with as quickly as possible)…. We are of course talking about The First Dance. Striking the perfect balance between cute and cringey has to be the trickiest part of picking the perfect wedding song. As if dancing in front of all your family and friends didn’t pack enough pressure, deciding which song will soundtrack your married life can be a total minefield.

Maybe you and your love have a special song together. The song you danced on during your first date, the song that was playing when you first kissed or a song that just perfectly describes how you feel for the other person or how he makes you feel. That song! That song could be your first dance song.

If you love to dance, well, we say go for it! Pull everything out of the closet. And with everything, we mean EVERYTHING! Choreographed dance routines (why not, if you find the time to prepare), father and daughter dances, mother and son dances, surprise dance routines…. Just make sure that all of this dancing gets caught on film of course!

The Classics

If you are already feeling excited, the best is to list it down from the beginning. Knowing your classics on the dance floor can be a big help. We’ve listed a couple of pointers in the right direction… dance floor that is, that might get you started.

The sway
Choreographed spectacles aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, so if you’re shy or time-poor – or just fancy a sweet slow dance for your first spin – don’t force the issue. The sway is perfect if you want to open the dance floor on a romantic note and have people standing around holding lighters and such, going aaahww. Just walk onto the floor holding hands and swirl into position.
Song: At Last, Etta James

High-energy swing
If you’re a couple that love’s to get down on it, not afraid of moving around a bit or, why not, improvise (!) then go for the high-energy swing! If you feel like choreographing to it, people will be even more surprised! Couple’s routines such as Grease’s You are the one that I want, or Dirty Dancing’s Time of my Life work really well too.
Song: Crazy Little Thing Called Love, Queen

Something Latin
If you think the first dance should be all about romance but a bit more spiced up than the sway, maybe a Latin classic will get your heart pumping. Go for something sensual with slow movements like a rumba or something a bit faster like a tango or a super sexy salsa.
Song: Tu Amor Me Hace Bien, Marc Anthony

A Classic Waltz
Always dreamed of being Ginger or Fred Astaire? This is your chance to have those heads turning as you stride across the room! Foxtrot, waltz, all is possible. Just note that these dances involve big movements and are less adapted to smaller dance floors.
Song: It Had to Be You, Harry Connick Jr.

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The year has just started but even for those that are getting married soon, 2015 has already brought a couple of FD goodies:

  • Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
  • All of Me – John Legend
  • A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
  • Only Love – Ben Howard
  • I Won't Give Up – Jason Mraz
  • Marry You – Bruno Mars
  • Stay with Me – Sam Smith
  • How Long Will I Love You – Ellie Goulding
  • Baby I'm Yours – Arctic Monkeys
  • Grow Old with Me – Tom Odell

Curious to know what some celebs chose for their first dance?

  • Kate Middleton and Prince William – Ellie Goulding Your Song
  • Kate Moss and Jamie Hince – Roxy Music If There Is Something
  • Barack Obama and Michelle Robinson – Stevie Wonder You and I
  • David Beckham and Victoria Adams – The Starlight Orchestra It Had To Be You

If just looking at the above makes your heart stop, for those who really dread it, be assured. There is no obligation or law indicating that you should actually open the dance floor. If you do have a special song and want to play it, why not do it during the ceremony, the signing of the register or the wedding breakfast? If you feel pressured, you can always ask the DJ for a shorter version of the song and ask your friends to join you halfway through. Want to divide attention? Take a hi-tech approach and project funny images of you both onto a big screen as you glide across the floor or hand out lyrics and encourage guests to serenade you while you dance. Up-tempo Motown classics like I Can’t Help Myself (Sugar Pie Honey Bunch) by The Four Tops will work a treat.

After the opening dance, ask the DJ to invite people to the floor (if they aren’t there already). Up the romance factor by asking your married guests for their first dance tunes and playing some of them after your own.

Just remember, whether you are dance maniacs or not, it’s YOUR big day and you have to do things the way it makes you happy! The last thing you want to stress over is the first dance. Just have fun!